Wedding Address Gets a Bad Rap
Let’s talk about the Wedding Address, which is where the Minister or the Officiant talks about love, relationships and marriage.
Some say the Wedding Address is the most boring, snoozing portion of the entire wedding. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It can be the place where people are very inspired. That’s where I want my wedding ceremonies to head! Not being preachy is the key. And honestly, sometimes I have felt I was being more preachy than I thought. Take note, I say to myself, and do better next time!
Then there’s people who wouldn’t care much for anything that’s said, even if it were the Gettysburg Address. I get it. They want to go to the party or maybe I rub them the wrong way. Who knows? It is, I say, None of My Business.
A wedding address can be snoozy if it is the typical, “Dearly beloved we are gathered here today to acknowledge these two loved ones who wish to be joined in holy matrimony.” That wedding address has been done A LOT. On the other hand, something simple and direct is exactly what some couples are looking for. I don’t want to be critical of what’s traditional. For some, it’s truly perfect.
Also my couples over the years have brought ideas they wanted incorporated into their ceremony.
Over the years I’ve had the pleasure of finding wonderful ideas through Google, material I got from ministerial school, gathered quotes I’ve modified and put into my ceremony. There’s even songs whose lyrics were super inspiring. Best of all,over the years my couples have brought ideas they wanted incorporated into their ceremony. After their wedding was over, I liked the text so much that I just kept it!
My ceremony has been refined over time, which is what you’re going to do, is refine over time.
Getting the Best Compliment
One of the best compliments I got was fairly recently. The father of the bride took me aside and told me the wedding I’d just done for his third daughter was the best he’d ever been to and “I’ve been to a lot of them.” What a great compliment! Four or five days later the bride called me and told me the words I’d said had inspired her father AND her sister to change their reception speeches. That was truly a great compliment!!
This is the material I’m making available to you so you can see if it’s right for you. I’ve done a lot of research on Google, put together readings and ceremonies for you to look over so you don’t have to go out on Google and gather ideas together. Of course you can, there’s just so much out there. But I’d rather you spend your time developing your skills as an officiant instead of doing research. You do what’s right for you.
No Matter Where You Gather Resources
No matter where you get your resources and how you put it together, the rule of thumb is if the wedding address you put together is right, it feels good to you. I put my ceremony together and deliver it in a heart-felt way because I love what it says. The words feel authentic to me. That’s what people feel, not so much the words, which are important of course. You have to start, however, with what feels right to you.
All of the things you’ll learn in the Ready, Willing and Able Officiant Training Program are designed to help you find and put together what feels right to you. It has to feel RIGHT to YOU.
I hope you’ll consider this program, To get more information, click the link that’s around here somewhere (!) and you’ll receive information that will help you decide if this program is right for you.
Don’t Reinvent the Wheel
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel – unless you want to! Always be mindful of what your couple wants and what they need and when you combine that with how it feels to you, you can’t go wrong. You’ll do great. Experiment, play, have fun with this.
Officiating is a wonderful profession to get involved in. And you deserve to enjoy your life and the work you do.
Thank you for watching and I look forward to hearing your stories about leading your couples as they say their I Do’s!
Rev. Crystal Y
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