waiting for innovation
What kind of a ceremony will the officiant lead in this setting?
Funny how innovation happens. For example, 👉🏾 spending time alone — if you’re single like I am — means figuring out how to do a lot of things on my own.  Recently, I cut and installed new baseboards in my bedroom by myself.
🔨🪚 I used a LOT of baseboard on this learning curve!
Getting It Done
A while ago I learned how to install shelves and pack up summer for winter.
The garage has been swept 🧹and tidied.
The basement has been half cleaned and reorganized (why didn’t I do that sooner?— It’s sooo much better). A ton of “I’ll get to it later” stuff has been thrown out. What can I say…sometimes it just takes time to say good-bye 🙂
While I was sweeping and cutting, like the Karate Kid, the repetitive movement became the backdrop to looking at what I could change about the way I officiate. Or the profession of marrying people in general.

Age of Innovation

We’re REALLY in the age of innovation. We’ll never go back to the days where marrying someone took years of study to be a minister or pastor from a seminary. Online ordination services have innovated that process based on the US Constitutions guarantee of freedom of religion and freedom of speech.
To make sure I don’t get left behind using a boring wedding over and over, I came up with a list of 20 things that can be done to innovate ceremonies and a wedding business. To move further into the changes life is bringing us.
Such as changing the simple step of introducing who we are to guests. Here’s the old way and then the new, innovative way:

Old and New — the experiment begins

Old — pastors were known by name and there was a plaque somewhere in the church who pointed out who “he” was. There was no real need to make an introduction. But with online ordination, many “have to’s” were thrown out the window and the experiment of what could be done instead of tradition began.
New — people have no idea who you are, where you came from or what right you have to stand where you’re standing.
Here’s some examples that depending on how you’ve approached your role, may provide a way to innovate your ceremony.

Welcome, Welcome

“Hi, I’m Rev Crystal and it’s so amazing that you all came here to see me. Oh wait, you’re here because you know Jack and Jill, not me. I’m the fortunate/blessed officiant and I have the wonderful pleasure of marrying (couples names) — to each other of course — today. I know they may be a bit nervous but I’ll do my best to get them married. They want me to let you know how happy they are that you’re here.”

Create engagement

“Who’s come the furthest today?”
“Who’s glad 2021 is here? Can I get a whoooo hooo?”
“Besides parents, aunts and uncles and grandparents, who’s known (the couple’s names) the longest?”
“Whats one happy word would you use to describe bride/groom?”
These are ideas of how you help set the tone with a different kind of welcome. It’s like innovating your hello!
You can download the entire list of 20 ideas.
Please leave a comment… how do you plan to innovate your ceremony and business?
innovate your ceremony
Love never goes out of style, so let’s set a few of our own styles, shall we?
Rev. Crystal, Coach, Course Creator, Officiant and Collaborator with the best minds and hearts around.
There’s a number of ways I can help you succeed as an officiant.


One of the books you should have to innovate your ceremony is

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